Back 2 University!

After what has felt like the longest summer holiday, I’m heading back to university this week. The constant late nights & Netflix Originals binges have been fun. A little longer and I would have completed Netflix. But it’s become repetitive, I’ve been itching for a change.

I have mixed feelings about going back. On one hand I’m excited to get back into it. To have a schedule to stick to again. I’ve missed the structure that going to university gave me. On the other hand though, I’m somewhat anxious. Second year is a significant change in gear in comparison to the first, in terms of workload & difficultly.

I would say the former feeling is stronger than the latter though. This summer holiday has given me a lot of time to reflect. (I’m sure you can tell by now that I didn’t leave the house much!) I was able to enjoy my solitude, to be alone with my thoughts, it’s been refreshing.

Whether you’re living on campus or commuting from home. Here are some things I’m certain will come in handy during your time in higher education:

1. 16-25 Railcard

You’ll definitely make use of the train during your time at university, this card gets you 1/3 off the standard price of train tickets. Railcards are £30, and need to be renewed yearly.

Unless you choose to pay £70 for 3 years. I understand that the price isn’t very appealing and you’d rather spend that on a nice tee or some new jeans but trust me, it is worth it in the long run. Also for a limited amount of time, you can get £5 off with the promo code “STUDENTSAVER18”

2. UNiDAYS

If I’m being honest, one of the best perks about being a student are the discounts. I have older siblings that went to university and they sometimes talk about the “good ol’ days” when they were eligible for student discount. This just makes me value it that much more, because the chance to call upon it will not always be there. So it is better to “milk the cow as much as you can while it’s alive“.

This is significantly more popular than the rail card. But some people still don’t make use of it. It is as easy as downloading the app on your phone. You’ll also need to provide proof that you’re a student of course (providing your university email etc). But the vast amount of discounts that are available will come in handy.

3. Online Banking

Super important.

Online banking allows you to keep up to date with your transactions from the comfort of your phone and/or laptop. As a student this is invaluable. Once that student loan drops, the urge to spend lavishly is strong. For some that’s the most they have ever had in their account and it can result in false security.

Spending the money just because it’s there isn’t a good mentality. Online banking will allow you to check yourself if your outgoings far outweigh your incomings (yup, it’s ideal to have an extra source of income. Like a part-time job)

A quick visit to your bank and you can have it set up in no time. Make sure to apply for a “student account” too

4. Stationery

For the first year students, congratulations on getting into university. However, I’m sure studying isn’t the first thing on your mind, is it? You want to experience the independence of being a university student. But you have to remember that you’re still a “student“. And a student needs their books, notebooks and pens. The easier you make it for yourself, the easier it will be. Common sense right?

Also, having the appropriate stationery available will encourage you to use it so you might as well. Especially if you need it, ay?

5. Grammarly

You’ve just finished a 2,000 word essay. You want to submit via TurnitIn but you have to proofread it first. No one likes grammatical or punctuation errors in an essay.

With Grammarly, you’re able to do this without having to proofread. It’s a free app that produces error free pieces of work. It scans for any mistakes and notifies you if there are any. It is compatible with your laptop, as well as your phone. So sending incorrectly worded emails to important people will be a thing of the past.

It’s bound to bump your grade up, it’s a no-brainer!

Well, that’s all from me for now guys and gals.

Enjoy the new academic year!

Happy Sunday.

Are People Afraid to Fall in Love?

I’m typing this out while listening to some R’N’B/Soul. So, I think it’s safe to say that I’m “in my feelings“.

Honestly I’m asking myself this question as much as I am asking you guys. “Why are you afraid to fall in love

Understandably, looking at how things are and how people behave most of the time. I can relate to why most will not want to fall in love.

No one likes to feel vulnerable or helpless. And I guess love makes you feel EXACTLY like that. You’re figuratively giving your heart to another person, trusting them not to play games and strum the strings like a guitar. Also no one wants to be that person that got “played” by the opposite sex. I understand, 100%. If you deep it, love is not only exciting but it’s daunting too. But all good things are on the other side of fear. Remember that.

Personally, I’ve always had a 90’s R’N’B kind of heart. I put my soul into it, if I fall in love, it’s a both a good & bad thing. But because of this, does it mean I’m afraid to fall in love? It doesn’t feel like fear; it feels more like hesitation, or caution if you will.

Why do YOU think you’re not too keen to fall in love?

A few factors come into play here:

  • Past Experiences
  • Social Influence
  • Unwillingness to “Submit” / Feel Vulnerable
  • Not being loved back

Now, if anyone of these factors apply to you then that’s normal. Because more than one applies to me.

I’ve asked myself 3 questions and I think you should also, if you feel like you’re “stuck” concerning this particular subject.

  1. Envision your life, 5-15 years from now. Would you like to be alone? Or with a companion?
  2. Do you want kids? Because the last time I checked you need a partner for that.
  3. Think back to the last time you felt like you were in love. That shit felt good right? So what’s the issue?

Damn. These tunes I’m listening to really have me by the throat lmao…

Anyway, we aren’t getting any younger, better believe that. And contrary to common belief, love isn’t easy to come by, especially one that goes both ways. So if there’s a chance, put the pride aside & go for it. Allow the heart to lead the way.

Furthermore, people that encourage “building a wall” are unhealthy, both physically & emotionally. It has been proven that we need and crave affection, whomsoever we are. YUP, I’m taking about the guys that walk around thinking they are Tony Montana, “hard as nails“.

Listen, Tony had Elvira. And we all know how he ended up once she left his side. You can’t be “hard” all the time. It’s ideal to have someone to go home to and be sarrrftttt with, ya unnastand?

You can’t even mention family in this case, because there are things you can do with a partner that you can’t do with your family… unless you’re a Lannister. But listen, to each their own.

Don’t be silly by blocking your blessings ladies & gentlemen. I know I definitely won’t.

If you’re hell-bent on chasing numerous & eventual dead-end flings at a time. Good luck to you.

If you’re comfortable with forever being alone, that’s cool. You might as well purchase that first cat now.

If you’re adamant that you don’t want to put yourself in a vulnerable position again then you’re a wuss.

I’m hoping this message has triggered something in you. But if it hasn’t, then I apologise for wasting your time. However, it’s changed my perspective on the matter. So I guess some good came out of it regardless.

Before I go, I’ll leave you with some of the songs I had in my ear whilst typing out this piece of work, enjoy.

One Way – ft T-Pain

East Atlanta Love Letter

Overrated

Relax With Me

Happy Sunday.