Is Being Metrosexual Normal Now?

What is a Metrosexual you ask?

First of all, what rock have you been living under? Secondly a metrosexual is a heterosexual male that enjoys partaking in activities that normally a female or a homosexual male would (excluding the sexual stuff). For example: shopping, fashion, skin care etc.

This term came to prominence in 1994, before I was even born. And I feel like I fall into this bracket. I enjoy buying new stuff, I take pride in how I look and I have a skincare routine #FineBoyNoPimple.

A single man with a high disposable income living or working in the city is perhaps the most promising consumer market of the decade – Mark Simpson, 1994

Now, I don’t have a high disposable income yet but this was 1994, products are much easier to come by today and can be brought literally anywhere.

What I’m thinking now is, has it become more of a norm among black men throughout the years than it was in 1994?

I grew up in south east London, the youngest of 4 children and the only boy. I grew up around women, exposed to different things. From face masks to body salts and everything in-between. I guess that’s the reason behind my urge to want to look good and the interest I have in personal hygiene routines.

More men are becoming less embarrassed to admit to looking after themselves and taking an interest into fashion. Guys are getting pedicures and manicures, following fashion changes and developments just as much as women do nowadays.

Before all this, give a guy a bar of soap and some deodorant and he’s happy. But in 2018, the variation of skin and hair care products that are available for men are amazing. It’s just as vast as the women’s. Getting ready for a night out would have taken 10-15 minutes for the average man before 1994. Today I’d say it takes me and probably every other metrosexual close to 40 – 60 minutes. This is down to the creams and lotions that are available.

I found out recently that men only washed their balls, ass and armpits while in the shower. I don’t know if that’s true but the diagram was hilarious. Anyway, it was no surprise that a shower took 5-8 minutes if that’s all they were scrubbing.

You’ll usually start caring about your appearance once you hit adolescence. That’s when pimples start appearing. Your body is constantly changing and that’s when most metrosexual men are born. During their teenage years. Some guys still don’t see getting a pedicure or manicure or being conscientious of personal hygiene in general as “masculine”. But that’s why they have dragon claws. Their feet and hands look like something out of Game of Thrones.

It’s a Man’s World. I’ve seen the future of masculinity and it’s moisturised. – Mark Simpson, GQ exhibition, 1994

Coconut Oil or Cocoa Butter was the default moisturiser for black men in the past and still is in some respect. But new lotions have come into the mix and have drew the attention of many a men to try something new.

Even the management of beards, with shampoo, conditioners and oils. It’s all falls under the characteristics of a metrosexual man. You’re taking time out of your day to groom yourself.

At the end of the day: Take care of your body and it will take care of you.


God bless.

YouTube Kicking Drill to the Curb?

Damn, you’re really going to do the mandem like that YouTube? 

It has come to my attention that YouTube has taken down a handful of music videos under the “Drill” genre. As a result of police complaints, stating that it is causing the recent issue of increased crime in London.

Seems unfair that this is what is being done, victims of the forceful deletion have taken up appeals to have their videos put back up on the website. But if I’m being honest, I really don’t know how I feel about this… On one hand, it’s naive to believe that music is the main cause of the increased crime and deaths in the capital. But then, on the other hand, youths are easily influenced and there are a lot of  “gassed” (unnecessarily confident/cocky) youths walking around today, wanting to “prove a point” and the music seems to have fueled the desire to do so.

Everyone wants to be Al Capone nowadays, but I don’t see movies like “Scarface” or the Netflix hit series “Narcos” being targeted. Why is that?

Personally,  I don’t care for Drill. I don’t find it stimulating at all. However, there are people that listen to this genre without having malicious thoughts or being urged to break the law. Is it fair to deprive those people of the music because of those that aren’t acting accordingly?

The government need to think of ways to keep youths busy. Youth clubs, after-school clubs were instrumental when I was a kid because it gave me something to do outside of school. So I wasn’t just walking about on the street with nothing to do. A popular verse in the Bible: “Idle hands are the devil’s workshop” has never made so much sense to me before now.  How many youth clubs/extra-curricular activity centres have been closed down due to cuts that the government have made? Where has the money been going instead? You can’t say tax because have you seen the roads lately? Pothole galore, sometimes I feel like I’m back in Nigeria with the way the car gallops in and out of worn out tarmac.

To be honest, I don’t think crime rates have risen at all. I genuinely believe that the media have just decided to give it more coverage than they usually do. At the end of the day London has never been a completely safe place and that is a fact. Like any other city in the world. But it is clear that people want to make this genre of music the scapegoat for what is happening at the moment. Similar to how a lot of people we against Hip-Hop in the late 80’s and early 90’s because of its “glamorisation of violence and drugs“.

Then again, some of the lyrics that people are coming out with are ridiculous, I have heard things like “stabbing man in the chest and licking the blood off”. I’m sure you can tell that I’m paraphrasing, but it was along those lines. With shit like that on the internet, you can’t be surprised at the outcome.

The youth are literally the future, so we need to put more effort and thought into their development. Because at the moment, a lot of them are little shits with no sense of discipline. It will only get worse if something isn’t done and done fast.

God Bless.


False Accusations?

As of late, people have felt that little bit more encouraged to come out about harassment/rape. That is a good thing, these are things I, personally don’t condone. Along with 99% of the population.

However, there have also been a plethora of false cases here and there that have been brought to respective authorities out of spite or other malicious reasons.

In terms of valid cases, the most recent and memorable was the case against Bill Cosby. The 80-year old has been convicted of many counts of sexual assault and looks to spend the rest of his life behind bars. I just “googled” the guy to find out his age and it looks like Wikipedia haven’t wasted time in updating their description of the guy. “Sex offender” is there for all to see.

I’m not saying he doesn’t deserve to be shamed, I have no doubt that he’s guilty but it is just upsetting how easy it is for a decorated career, such as his to be tarnished forever. I never found Bill funny but other people did and I’m sure his incarceration will upset that particular group.

Moreover, Morgan Freeman has recently been accused of similar acts and I just refuse to believe it. I need some solid proof, it’s starting to seem like all the distinguished black celebrities are being targeted.

Jimmy Saville was out here touching kids for God knows how long, “supposedly” unknown to everyone. Isn’t it convenient how when he was finally outed for his crimes the guy was already 6-feet under? Like c’mon… you’re telling me NO ONE knew about the shenanigans he was getting up to? Qwhite strange.

That is a load of cow poo if you ask me.

I bet you guys haven’t heard of Jeffrey Epstein, a banker/financier and convicted sex offender. This guy has a whole island where he has kidnapped kids and uses them as prostitutes for all the twisted paedophiles of the world. Don’t believe me? GOOGLE it.

I don’t want to play the race card, but a man of colour could never DREAM of getting away with shit like this the way Jeffrey is. Bill Clinton has been rumoured to have visited this so-called island, as Jeffrey and the Clintons are good friends. What really amazes me is that this guy hasn’t been confronted.

What kind of connections does he have? It’s scary to think about…

I’ll stop while I’m ahead.

In conclusion, we shouldn’t throw people like Morgan Freeman to the wolves just yet. Because false accusations have been thrown around a lot. For media attention or just because someone wants to be a real asshole and mess with someone’s life.

So slow your roll coach, let’s wait and see how this case unfolds.

God Bless.